Changing how we understand abuse, dating, and self-worth
I guide individuals, audiences, and organizations toward understanding abusive and toxic relationship dynamics — and what it really means to choose yourself and experience healthy, mutual love.
My Services
1:1 Dating Coaching
Ready to date with more clarity and confidence? My trauma-informed dating coaching helps you create authentic profiles, set intentional goals, and build the self-esteem needed to stop settling and start attracting aligned, emotionally available partners.
Whether you're new to dating or feeling burned out, I’ll help you shift from performing to truly showing up as yourself.
Emotional Abuse Recovery Coaching
Whether you’re trying to leave or healing after enduring emotional abuse, you don’t have to do it alone.
My trauma-informed coaching helps you untangle confusion, rebuild self-trust, and reclaim your voice. Together, we’ll focus on boundaries, clarity, and healing—at your pace, on your terms.
Media Consultant and expert commentary
I offer trauma-informed insights on relationships, dating, and emotional well-being—helping media platforms create content that’s both impactful and psychologically grounded.
With over 12 years of experience, I serve as an expert voice for podcasts, magazines, news outlets, and digital media. I’m available for interviews, features, panels, and consulting on emotionally complex topics like attachment, abuse recovery, and modern dating.
Get THe Book
If you’ve ever felt controlled, confused, anxious, or ashamed in a relationship—but couldn’t quite name why—this book is for you.
Is This Really Love? helps you recognize the subtle (and not-so-subtle) signs of coercive control and emotional abuse. Drawing from EMDR, ACT, and self-compassion tools, this empowering guide gives you the clarity and courage to break free, rebuild your self-worth, and reclaim your autonomy—step by step.
I’m Leah Aguirre, LCSW—therapist, relationship coach, author. Expert
I help smart, self-aware individuals break free from the painful cycles of unhealthy love, self-abandonment, and second-guessing. Through trauma-informed tools, nervous system healing, and radical self-compassion, I guide you back to your worth—so you can build the kind of love that feels safe, secure, and true.
I’ve experienced abuse and unhealthy love
I was the woman who kept falling for emotionally unavailable and emotionally immature men—the charmers, the hot-and-colds, the ones who made me question my worth. I stayed in situationships far too long, confused love with intensity, and silenced my gut in the name of “potential.”
I was a serial dater with a history of chasing love that hurt. At one point, I found myself in an emotionally abusive relationship that left me feeling small, ashamed, and broken.
I know what it’s like to doubt yourself. To ask: Is it me? Am I asking for too much? Why do I keep ending up here?
But here’s what I also know: You’re not broken—you’ve been patterned.
And with the right tools, support, and compassion, you can unlearn the patterns that have kept you stuck in cycles of pain and start building the kind of love that feels safe, secure, and real—starting with the relationship you have with yourself.
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